Had one of the craziest, funny and informative talks with any guest I’ve ever had on my show. Lynn-dee Rensburg, who is a Tantra Female Sexuality Coach, is not only very knowledgeable about Tantra, but is truly her authentic self! Love her intensity! Get ready for a good time here.
Self love Exercise
We spoke about people having a lot of layers to discover themselves. Learning to be you in all areas of your life. People find it hard to understand projections. Coming back to yourself and center yourself. Their no ideal situation to be you. You need to create this to be YOU. Shaung-Min said that enjoying the imperfections of us. I spoke about how we create unconsciously and consciously the whole time and I have to bring myself back to the why question and say is this what I am wanting to create? I mentioned I come from lineage of oppressed woman that didn’t speak up for themselves and they had the mindset of suffering. Pleasure isn’t a word that my ancestors even knew. Pleasure comes with empowering and you need to reeducate yourself regards to empowering yourself. Shaung-Min mentioned they also don’t talk about pleasure or even their bodies. I’ve asked Shaung-Min why would someone want to implement self love? She said that live is full of challenges and if you dont know how to love yourself when it gets unfamiliar /challenge you can go blaming mode on yourself. Instead asking how can I learn from this? Feeling the uncomfortable of not knowing at that moment. WE CAN LEARN. Self love reduce stress, anxiety and uncertainty,. I mentioned that we are not taught to have compassion for ourselves and we are taught from young age to fix something instead of having compassion. Are greatest triggers are our greatest teachers. I mentioned that we have so much freedom but we dont have the freedom in our minds because we live in the past and not what is right IN front of us. We spoke about the word Love and it requires a lot of self awareness. Start with yourself create love for yourself. Self love exercise: Write a list what you are grateful for about yourself In being we look for something but coming into being of gratefulness Taking action of doing this exercise How you feel when doing it (emotional connection) Write it down at the beginning I spoke about your heart rate when you connect to gratitude and mentioned that science mentioned that gratitude is the only emotions that you don’t feel other emotions. We both gave our experience on this exercise and what it meant in our lives. Encouragement message: Self development can seem scary but it doesn’t have to be seen like that. It can be joyful to understand yourself and it is the freedom that your looking for. The path is beautiful and buy a ticket to yourself. Please comment below what are you grateful for? Share away
In this video I am explaining my personal experience with Sufi breathing and giving you a practice to burn the Fire and any stagnant emotions, thoughts and feelings to be burned. The practice original from Islam tradition to connecting to source. So I am grateful for the knowledge and the practice. Exercise: 3 breath in fast mouth and then 1 breath out either through nose or mouth silent and repeating over and over with movement or sound BUT listen to rhythm of what your body is wanting to move in Give it a go with me. Share your experience in the comments below.
5 steps to awesome Blowjob
1.Meditation Make the experience a meditation. Let your thoughts pass like clouds. 2.Feel into your body Feel what your feeling while doing this. 3.Communication Keep open line communication between each other. 4. Preference Asked would he like it harder, faster, licking it. What is his preferred choice. 5. Deep breathing and Breath hold Can be a fun game to use for this exercise
Tapping Fear of not Knowing
Tapping Exercise of not knowing Their is idea in society today that we need to know everything especially when it come to the Future nobody know what tomorrow brings Even not knowing in a current situation it can be vulnerable to state you don’t know Demonstration of points 1. Karate Chop Side of your Hand 2. Head 3. Eyebrows 4. Side Eye 5. Underneath Eye 6.Under nose 7. Chin 8.Collarbone Fist with your hand 9. Armpit STATEMENT EVEN THOUGH I HAD THE FEAR OF NOT KNOWING I DEEPLY AND PROFOUNDLY LOVE MYSELF. Deep breath afterwards. Looking forward to hear how your practice went?
6 Steps When your pussy is not open to Penetration 1. Acceptance Most Important step: Not FORCING her in anyway 2. Playfulness be curious allow time to cultivate this playfulness 3. Breath with each other 4. Bringing back sensual touch (texture, touch, Smell) 5. Breast Massage 6. Kissing yourself or partner
Calm down Breathing Lifting up your Soul
Is this video I am guiding you to calm your breathing. It is simple inhale all the way to your belly and exhale and repeating the following words: Inhale the UNIVERSE is within Exhale the Grace of Universe is around ME It is quick 4 minute tutorial that you can do without your day as you please.
3 Steps to get out of your head during sex
1. Breath Transmute you to all their realms. Also connect on all levels with your partner. I invite you to breath before, during and afterwards. Breath away. 2. Pay attention to your sensation in your body When you notice your thoughts is wondering bring it back to the sensation within your body. Bring your attention to the felt sense (example tingling, warmth and etc.). Focus on what brings you pleasure in that moment. 3.Popcorn Style This container you create between your partner)s) and yourself need to be a safe non judgmental environment. Allow and to express and to be. (no advise needed for this exercise). JUST SAY IT LIKE IT COMES UP. This exercise can help you to see how open your are regards to your thoughts and communicating with your partner.
Dealing with Emotions
If you have a EMOTIONS you can Benefit from this chat. Lynn-dee is Female Sexuality Coach (Teaching people to take their POWER back). Indira is Self Love Vita Coach. We avoid our emotions and feelings. Indira said heavy emotions we avoid leave them behind. She encourage us to go to this emotions. Be brave dive into how to connect to these emotions. Lynn-dee share her own experience of growing up that her emotions wasn’t a healthy thing to do in society. Emotions is necessary for our human experience it our body way communicating to us. Indira heavy emotions was Fear. She was a fearful person. Was heavy emotion in her body. She felt fear but didn’t know what to do with this emotion. It is important to dive into these deep emotions. Indira gave example of what fear did in her body. Connect to the root of fear (related to when you were a child). As child we learned that this wasn’t safe so we learned a pattern to not show this emotion. TOOL: Consciously going into meditation to access her true self. To find her reason behind the fear. Have a conversation (shell) with fear. Asked: What you need? How can I help you? She created a new reality and relationship with FEAR. Also consider what her body and nervous system could handle itself. Present for fear can be challenging to avoid this FEAR. Starting a new relationship with Fear: 1. Consciousness Desire to create consciousness to feel this 2. Take time make yourself a priority 10 minutes plan yourself to be with yourself. to prepare meditation. Meditation state of stillness just connect to your being. Higher connection of everything (different levels). Calm your mind. Focus on one thing. 3. Talk to your Fear Connection. No thinking but just feeling. Asked questions don’t need to be pro. Create a link. To overcome heavy emotions is to EMBRACE IT. Embrace all your emotions. Indira mentioned that we disconnect with our own wisdom.
Stepping into your Power
What a lovely time with Mitch and sharing with you all. I mentioned that sex is actually medicine and healing space for us. We still have the old systems of oppressed culture. Their is a lot of shame and guilt put on self pleasure in today’s culture. Understanding your power you need to spend time with yourself out of sexuality. All human emotions are welcomed and encourage you to embrace them. Sex was always a fight between myself and my hubby. Tantra meaning is woven together. Brought all aspects of myself into my physical being. Complete wholeness. I could not find my answer to my question in the western world. Who made the rule of orgasm to be the focus of sex the whole time? It is about honoring the seasons. In some traditions we are taught that self pleasure is sinful. To Mitch it was scary to go on Tinder date and never see this guy every again. Myself mentioned that coming to sex their need to be a level of safety when expressing your desires. Everybody desire is different and open line communication need to be the center of relationship. When you face your inner demons your not just doing it for yourself but for generations to come. Mitch mentioned his experience when it not 50/50 %. I mentioned that we go through harmony and disharmony moments. Feeling and present is Healing it. Human being all want safety, connection and respect. Mitch mentioned active listening is the key to equality. I explained my story how I life in Covid times. To me it was about brining the balance back. Mitch mentioned courage to create what you want with high vibrations. Lynn-dee mentioned living out of heart their endless opportunities than your mind can comprehend. Follow your heart without any cages. Mitch mentioned his childhood self imagine that he created. Society must not tell us what is okay and what is not. I mentioned what is it what you really want? My why behind all of this is speaking up for repressed people. Mitch invested in stories and people from childhood. Mitch mentioned how we evolve and how interesting that is. Mitch mentioned his experience of Covid. Time are changing maybe I should to? I mentioned using your sexual energy to create. Mitch mentioned his experience with barrier and be okay to speak about things. Its okay to asked for help and speak about trauma and that it isn’t weak. We need each other to heal. Coming back to your programming. Mitch mentioned how counselling helped him.