I see it everyday in my relationship with my boy. The patterns I learned him from my mindset years back. I cant be blaming him because I learned him that. (Interesting fact we learn most of brain pathways between age 0 to 18 months.) Do I go into a blaming and what I could have done differently ? Nope that isn’t empowering at all.
I just keep the space for him to express and the superpower we all have within us. Yes reach for that tool it is just a matter of choice to use it. LOVE.
Love does heal the past and the future and is there at any moment of any time. Follow the thread of love not what used to be and could have been.